Is communication a stumbling block between you and your partner or within your immediate family circle? Do you have difficulty breaking the repeated patterns of behaviour and emotions that are negatively affecting your relationships? If so, you are certainly not alone.
Think of a relationship as an investment – an asset that can gain value over time. Investing in a relationship involves prioritising time to nurture it, and devoting energy, attention, and focus to enable it to grow. Investments of honesty, respect, expressions of love and freedom help the relationship to be healthy and loving.
When a couple originally opens a relationship investment account they are enthusiastic and have plans for their investment to grow and give a healthy and happy return in the future. However, over time they sometimes lose sight of their relationship investment and forget to frequently top it up with the same levels of attention, focus, energy and time. They may settle into a state where the relationship is no longer healthy and communication no longer as strong as it once was. The relationship investment gradually loses its value and starts to go downhill without either partner realising it.
Stressful transitional times put pressure on relationships, be they between couples, family members, colleagues or friends. Such events may include the birth of a child, loss of a loved one, separation, infidelity, loss of employment, blending of families, moving interstate, or starting a new job. It can be very difficult to adjust to these changes of circumstances, but counselling can help people to work out what needs to change and draw upon their strengths and coping strategies to repair or restore their relationships.
If you and your partner are experiencing relationship problems, counsellors at Western Plains Psychology can help you to work through your issues and work towards overcoming differences and repeating patterns of distress in the relationship. People seeking counselling support present with a range of problems including power imbalances, trust issues, conflicting ways of rearing the children or managing the finances, breakdown in communication and intergenerational issues.
Couples counselling at Western Plains Psychology helps people to understand their current relationship and what they want from it. They are encouraged to remember what drew them together originally and to be open about their individual needs within the relationship. Counselling incorporates communication skills, helping people to understand the needs of their partner, conflict resolution, assisting them to move towards a loving relationship. This involves exploring feelings, identifying their coping strategies and negotiating their individual contributions to the success of the relationship. Counsellors are often mediators who help the couple to get to the crux of the problems in their relationship and work towards a solution by allowing each person to express their views in a respectful and supporting environment.